“Girls it’s Time to Rise and Shine” my adopted mother would chant like a rooster crowing bright and early. 3 girls 1 bathroom and no one wants to be the first out of their warm comfy bed. The smell of bacon paired with eggs and grits motivated us just about every Sunday to get up. Putting…
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Purity After Sexual Abuse Part 4: Letting God Let It Go
“You have to ” Let Go and Let God”. I have heard this statement many times especially when I opened up about being molested. People would hush me with this quote. If people aren’t careful they can do damage with those 5 words. First hand those words impacted me. People think this quote is biblical…
Purity After Sexual Abuse Series: Part 2 Maintaining Your Purity
As a little girl, I envision being a dancer; a pointe ballerina to be exact. Tiny black girl with big puffy coiled hair gelled up in a bun. Black leotard, with a pink sparkly tutu, and pointe ballet shoes. As I do a perfect Plie I search for the face of a proud father but…
New Series: Purity After Sexual Abuse
Sexual Abuse and Purity are two words we never hear in the same sentence. Back in 2017, God whispered ” Purity After Sexual Abuse”. I wept when I heard this because I have always felt dirty and shameful for my past. Never did I think the stains of being violated could come clean. The…
The Real You Outside Of Trauma
It may sound a little weird but, for a while now I have struggled with being around healthy people. You know those hopeful, nurturing, good spirit, loving Joyful, funny, and fun kind of people to be around. When I’m around them I get sweaty palms and begin to feel disengaged and out of place….
Overcoming Hidden Layers Of Atheism
As a young girl, I had a deep desire for God. After a while, I grew up thinking God forgot me. My first oldest sister would take me to church. My expectations of meeting with God were always high. Because I wrote letters to God daily. During the service my little eyes watched people get filled…
Becoming a Healthy Communicator
My Adopted Mother’s UN- found voice taught me to avoid communication at all cost. My mom was like a turtle who retracted her head in her shell dodging any sign of confrontation or simple communication. My adoptive father screamed aggressively when needed to communicate instilling fear. When they had conversations my adoptive mother would freeze up…
Can I Really Honor My Mother and Father? I’m in foster Care
If you asked me a year ago, do I honor my Mother and Father? I would have given you the meanest 13-year-old sassiest eye roll ever. Then I would have proceeded to give you the grocery list of reasons why I felt my parents were unworthy of being honored. However, the more I learn about…
Top 10 Mistakes From Lack Of Identity
Heres my 10 Top mistakes from Lack of Identity. Hope these can be helpful for you. Disclaimer: This isn’t a been there done that “I’m perfect” post. This is an “I’m going through the process becoming whole in God” let me share what I’ve learned so far post People Pleasing: The only thing we receive from…
I’m Not Your Little Girl
One of the craftiest strategies the enemy created was trauma! It kills, steals and destroys whatever it encounters. Trauma can leave you dead on the inside while surviving on the outside. Trauma totally stunted my maturity. There are so many of us walking around in adult bodies, but our minds are still holding teddy bears. Were…
Refined Treasures 