I’m Turning 30 & Couldn’t be Happier

As a kid, I always wanted to be older.  I guess that’s why 30 is so darn exciting for me.  I knew each year would be greater.  With increasing age comes lessons, wisdom and new levels of responsibilities.  What’s even cooler is Jesus started his public ministry at the age of 30 and I believe…

Flipping Back The On Switch Of Your Emotions

” I’ll never allow anyone to hurt me ever again” have you ever said this before? Perhaps you didn’t realize this statement flipped the off switch of your emotions. To say you will never let anyone hurt means you must not feel.  We have no control over people hurting us. The control we have is…

Hating The Crime Loving The Criminal

Let’s just jump in. I dont hate Child Molesters”. Before crossing me off your favorite blogger’s list hear me out. For over 7 years I’ve searched through the Bible looking to justify my hatred for my adopted father. I challenged God on why I had to love a man who denied me of being his daughter…

March Monthly Devotional: New Ways New Styles With God

“Girls it’s Time to Rise and Shine” my adopted mother would chant like a rooster crowing bright and early.  3 girls 1 bathroom and no one wants to be the first out of their warm comfy bed. The smell of bacon paired with eggs and grits motivated us just about every Sunday to get up. Putting…

Purity After Sexual Abuse Part 4: Letting God Let It Go

“You have to ” Let Go and Let God”.  I have heard this statement many times especially when I opened up about being molested.  People would hush me with this quote. If people aren’t careful they can do damage with those 5 words. First hand those words impacted me. People think this quote is biblical…

New Series: Purity After Sexual Abuse

  Sexual Abuse and Purity are two words we never hear in the same sentence. Back in 2017, God whispered ” Purity After Sexual Abuse”.  I wept when I heard this because I have always felt dirty and shameful for my past.  Never did I think the stains of being violated could come clean. The…

The Real You Outside Of Trauma

  It may sound a little weird but, for a while now I have struggled with being around healthy people. You know those hopeful, nurturing, good spirit, loving Joyful, funny, and fun kind of people to be around. When I’m around them I get sweaty palms and begin to feel disengaged and out of place….

Overcoming Hidden Layers Of Atheism

As a young girl, I had a deep desire for God. After a while, I grew up thinking God forgot me.  My first oldest sister would take me to church.  My expectations of meeting with God were always high. Because I wrote letters to God daily. During the service my little eyes watched people get filled…

Becoming a Healthy Communicator

My Adopted Mother’s UN- found voice taught me to avoid communication at all cost. My mom was like a turtle who retracted her head in her shell dodging any sign of confrontation or simple communication.  My adoptive father screamed aggressively when needed to communicate instilling fear.  When they had conversations my adoptive mother would freeze up…